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  • Sunday, June 28, 2009

    Unknown diamond in muslim world

    He was heard to say that he counted upto above 5500 (perhaps only in america) people, who brought islam on his hands and then left counting for the matter of ikhlas.
    Muslim world doesn’t know him because he is connected with such people who work for the cause of Allah.
    Their main aim is Allah be pleased with them and grant them jannath.
    Their main aim is that all the muslims come together and follow islam and work to spread islam.
    They are silent, they never say bad about others because they really follow sayings of prophet mohammed (s.a.s) that never think bad about muslims.

    Even muslims doesn’t know what work they do.
    Some say they don’t call non-muslims towards islam.
    Some call them wahabi.
    Some call them gustaakhay rasool.
    Some call them bidathi.
    Some call them fools leaving their homes.
    Some call them deviated.

    But they call everyone towards Allah and prophet mohammed (s.a.s).

    And this man went out mad, traveled more than 72 countries, spending whatever he has earned in his life .He goes in the path of Allah for about 8 months in a year and spends 4 months with his family.
    Born to a new-muslim women in Scotland.
    He did baith on hands of Moulana yousuf kandhalvi (rah) and moved on foot through jungles of Africa,in the sands of Arab,in the cold of European countries to spread islam.
    Entered America to spread islam and changed lakhs of them.
    But remains hidden for this is done for Allah and not for shows.
    His age is now 95(may Allah give barkath in his life) and even now he goes for 8months in the path of Allah.This is the energy of eman which makes him stand to fight for islam at this age.
    He is Karnal or Colonel Syed Amiruddin Khan sahab .
    I have seen him and I could not control myself from crying when I look into his eyes.he comes every year to Hyderabad/India (he has spent most of his life in Hyderabad).He is just great.

    There are thousands of such examples, but they remain silent because they do it for Allah.

    They are connected to what people call them Tabligh jamath.
    (Where as Tabligh was duty of every muslim)



    May Allah grant us hidayath from lives of these people.


    Wednesday, June 24, 2009

    How do I stop sinning?

    Ibraheem ibn Adham was approached by a man who wanted to stop his sins. He asked for advice that will help him realize the consequences of his actions. He was told:

    If you want to disobey Allah, you can, in 5 cases:

    1- If you want to disobey Allah, then don't eat from His rizq (provision.)
    The man said: Then where am I to eat when every provision is from Allah?

    Ibraheem said: O such a person! Is it honorable and good to disobey Allah, and eat from His provision?
    The man said: give me the second one.

    2- If you want to disobey Allah, then do not live on Allah's property.
    The man said: Then where am I to live if not on Allah's property?

    Ibraheem said: Is it good then, to eat from His provision, live on His property, and disobey Him?
    The man said: Give me the third one.

    3- If you want to disobey Allah, then disobey Him in a place where He will not see you.
    The man said: How am I to do this when He not only sees what others see, but what is in the hearts?

    Ibraheem said: o you such a person, how do you eat from His provision, live on His property, and disobey Him openly?
    The man said: Give me the fourth one.

    4- If you want to disobey Allah, when the Angel of Death comes to you, tell him to come back later, after you repent.
    The man said: He will not accept this from me!

    Ibraheem said: O you such a person, when you cannot delay death, how do you expect a savior?
    The man said: Give me the fifth.

    5- If you want to disobey Allah, then after death comes to you, on the Day of Judgement, when the Angels of Hell come to drag you into Hell, refuse to go with them.
    The man said: They will not accept that from me!

    Ibraheem said: Then how do you expect to be saved?
    The man said: Enough! Enough! I seek forgiveness in Allah and make tawbaah! AstaghfirAllah wa i'tubuu ilayk!

    He made sincere tawbaah, and left all his acts of disobedience, and he died in such a state.


    Tuesday, June 23, 2009

    Harms Of Looking at Opposite Sex with Lustful Gazes

    In this day and age, due to the shamelessness and immodesty which has been spread through Pornography, TV, VCR, Internet, Cell Phone, Cinema, etc., so many people's lives have been destroyed. Young people have ruined their youth in illicit sexual intercourse and masturbation. Life-life marriages have been broken due to unlawful love affairs. On a social level, society is plagued with problems such as rape, prostitution, child molestation and pedophile, homosexuality, AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases.

    The question arises as to what is the root of all these problems. May Allah Ta'ala reward our pious predecessors, who look at the world with the eye of the heart, enlightened by the light of the Quran, Hadith and the burning love of Allah Ta’ala. They have diagnosed all these sickness to be brought about by one deadly disease. The root of all these problems is the SIN OF THE EYES, casting evil glances, looking at the opposite or same sex with lustful gazes. Unfortunately today, people do not even consider casting evil glances to be a sin, when in actuality it is the root of innumerable vices and sins.

    Another reality which people are totally unaware of is that by protecting one's eyes from lustful glances, one is promised the taste of the sweetness of Imaan. Once the sweetness of Imaan enters the heart, it will never be taken back. Thus by protecting the eyes, one is given grad tidings of a good death.

    Rasulullah Muhammad (صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم) said:

    ان النظرة سھم من سھام ابلیس مسموم من تر کھا مخافتی ابدلتہ ایمانا یجد حلاوتہ فی قلبہ

    "Verily the evil glance is a poisonous arrow from the arrows of Iblees. He who abstains from casting evil glances, I will grant him such Imaan, that he will feel the sweetness of it in his heart".

    (Narrated by Ibn Mas’ud in Tabarani and Kanzul-Ummaal; Vol. 5, pg. 228),
    (Ibn Katheer; Surra Nur, Ayat 30)

    Hafiz ibn Katheer (رحمۃ اللہ علیہ) mentions in his Tafseer:

    من حفظ بصرہ اورثہ اللہ نورا فی بصیرتہ

    "He who protects his eyes from unlawful gazes, Allah Ta'ala will grant him the light of the heart."

    We ask Allah Ta'ala that He makes this blog a means of exposing the reality of this destructive disease and that He guides the entire Ummah from the darknesses of sin into the light of piety and obedience to Allah Ta'ala and Rasulullah Muhammad (صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم).



    Wednesday, June 17, 2009

    A Letter from a muslim girl to her christian parents

    Hello Mami and Papi,

    I don't know how else to approach you in order to explain my reasoning behind my life changing decision and have you listen and understand at the same time. Since I can long remember I have not be a strong believer of Christianity, there was a lot that did not make sense to me, for example, why I have to beg for forgiveness to a priest? Why I have to pray to saints and not
    straight to God, why is Jesus the SON of God, why are their SOO many versions of the bible?
    The religion became a
    fascination to me, and I
    truly wanted to know
    more. I purchased a few
    books in the UK and read
    some pamphlets on the
    religion. I did not make
    any decisions but I contin-
    ued to read and become
    more familiar to Islam.
    Islam began making sense
    to me, the idea that we
    pray only to Allah, that we

    ask Allah for help and for forgive us, how a book (the Quran) that was written thousands of years ago remains unchanged as of today (there are different translations but no different versions) . Also how a book that was written years ago managed to explain scientific situations that was only discovered by man kind only a couple of year ago. Or how the Quran has managed to explains how babies develop in the womb? How would anyone thousands of years ago know this and in such detail? Especially since scientist discovered the explanation of these situations less that 100 years ago?? How can we explain those wonders of the book?

    Also how can I deny the holy book when it has been so clear in explaining advanced technology, how the day turns into the night, the creation of human beings by water (as we know scientifically to be known that we came from cells) layers of heaven (which we describe now in scientific terms as the atmospheric levels?). Furthermore, the beginning of the universe and the movement of tectonic plates (there are numerous other examples of the science behind the Quran).

    What also has touched me is that Islam believes in ALL THE PROPHETS - JESUS MOSES DAVID ABRAHAM AND MOHAMMAD (pbuh) they all coexist in he Quran, the Quran also tells us that we must respect ALL religions. Mami and Papi, I can not explain how many times I have made my self clear to you of what I believed in, I could not have given myself away an-
    ymore! Every time I spoke hours and hours on end about Islam, and how I knew so much.

    Also I began of interacting more with Muslim friends; I felt that they would be able to give me a clear explanation of Islam. Also Islam played a major part in self respect, and it helped my appreciate my self more, and realize that I should stay away from harmful situation such as drinking, smoking, going out with people that only meant trouble. I told you what my friends were like, they were heading the wrong direction, and I did not want to be in that direction and believing in Islam made it easier for me to walk away from the powers of shaytaan and do better.

    Also Islam was and has been the reason for my success in school. I have placed my mind in my studies instead of going out all the time as my old friends did, and trust me you would not like me to be like them, because if I had been than you would have every single reason to think I was a bad person, that I was irresponsible and that I was a disgrace to the family.After almost one year of studying Islam I had no doubt in my mind that itwas not the right religion.

    I was prepared to become a Sunni Muslim. In early June 2006 I attended the mosque in Westbury NY to ask further questions about Islam and after speaking to a sister and the imam of the mosque I knew that it was time to make the right decision. I did shahada around 2 weeks later which is the Islamic creed; it means to testify or to bear witness in Arabic, the declaration of the belief. I stated in front of 80- 100 Muslims "ash hadu anla ilaha illallah, wa ash hadu anla Mohammad roosul Allah" which translates to "I believe in one and only God and Mohammad is his mes- senger" It was such a beautiful experience.

    I had been accepted into the Islam. I was welcomed by every single Mus-lim at the mosque with open arms, I felt too special, it felt so right, I knew I had made the best decision in my life, and it was something that was going to bring positive sides of me. It is so hard to explain the rush, and the emotional and faith satisfaction that I had at that moment, but I knew there was something wrong, that I was not able to celebrate my happi-ness with the people in my life that I loved the most, the meant to most to me, and that was you and papi. The moment was wonderful but not complete. I really wish you could have been as proud of me as I was for

    It hurt so much to think and feel that my biggest challenge would be to openly tell you about me and Islam, about me and my faith, about me and my happiness. I know that you both want the best for me, you want me to be happy and you want me to be responsible, and you want me to
    be independent and make the RIGHT decisions. I have done the right de-cision, and I made it all by myself, and I read about Islam all by myself, I discovered Islam in me all by myself, IT WAS ME who made every decision from the point were I began in the Islamic interest to the point where I am now.

    I can't lie to you and tell you I had no influences because how else would I have been influenced by wanting to know more about Islam? Well from observing other people. How do we know as humans whether eating a chocolate cake taste good or not? We taste it, we try others to compare and then we make a final decision and if we like it we continue to eat if we don't then we disregard it.

    Mami and Papi, I know I might seem weak sometimes in certain situations, and I know I display signs of vulnerability , but converting into Islam was decided by me, its hard and it hurts to think that all this studying, research of Islam and me converting has been credited to someone else, but at the end of the day the only one that knows the truth is God and it is to him that I will be standing in front of on the day of Judgment, and it is him that knows everything.

    It is stated in the Quran that all the prophets were messengers of God, they all came to spread the news and religion of God, but that they all came in their own time, and that Mohammad (pbuh) was the last messenger of God.

    I know my word is hard to believe after the incidents these past two days, but there is nothing more that I can do to prove to both of you when it comes to the decisions that I made about Islam. And most importantly I want you both to understand that it is virtually impossible to explain ALL of my reasoning behind my belief in Islam, this email is not even 1/100th of it all, I have spent hours and hours and hours speaking to others about my feeling towards Islam, and I wish and pray to Allah that one day I will be able to express everything I feel about Islam with both of you.

    I still remain to be the daughter that you had almost 21 years ago, it has not changed the way I feel about you, you still are the most important people in my life, I love you both more than anything, I just have a different belief and its one which will bring you no shame, it will not physically hurt you, and I will not patronize our relationship.

    I love you both very much and I only pray for the best, Carolina Amirah DeFonseca.

    Dear muslim brothers and sisters, As Salam Walaikum Wa Rahmat Ullah,

    From this letter we can clearly see that those, like sister Carolina Amirah DeFonseca (May Allah be pleased with her) and other non muslim people, who archived faith truly by struggling and researching hard enough to find the truth, are the one who gives true value to ISLAM.

    But its us, who got Islam as a gift by birth and unfortunately we fail to know it, don't want to know it or we think that as we are muslims Jannat is fixed for us, even after some punishment in hell.

    But it is not what we think. "Why?" Here is the Hadith.

    Ali t narrates that Prophet Muhammad(saw) has said:

    Allah said I sent wahi to one Nabi of the Bani Israil (i.e. Dawud u) “Tell the obedient servants from your ummah not to only rely on their good actions, as on the day of reckoning, whichever servant I wish to punish I will punish in conformance to my (justice) and tell the disobedient servants not to throw themselves into destruction by their own hands (i.e. they should not give up hope of forgiveness) as I will forgive major sins also if I wish, and I will not care (i.e. in giving anybody punishment or forgiving anybody - Abu Naim.) Tafsir Mazhari Vol. 8 P . 486

    That is why we muslim belivers pray by saying...

    “O our Lord! Turn away from us the torment of the Hell; surely its torment is utter destruction.” Al Furqan 65 Read more...

    Monday, June 15, 2009


    A young man had been to a Class of Quranic Studies. The Mualim (Teacher) had shared about listening to Allah and obeying Allah through intuition. The young man couldn't help but wonder, 'Does Allah still speak to people through intuition?'

    After Lessons, he went out with some friends for coffee and pie and they discussed the message. Several different ones talked about how Allah had led them in different ways and that at the end you'll know it was Allah(SWT) Who has directed you.

    It was about ten o'clock when the young man started driving home. Sitting in his car, he just began to pray, 'Allah...If you still speak to people, speak to me. I will listen. I will do my best to obey.' As he drove down the main street of his town, he had the strangest thought to stop and buy a gallon of milk. He shook his head and said out loud, 'Allah is that you?' He didn't get a reply and started on toward home. But again, the thought, buy a gallon of milk came into his head.
    'Okay, Allah, in case that is you, I will buy the milk.' It didn't seem like too hard a test of obedience. He could always use the milk. He stopped and purchased the gallon of milk and started off toward home.
    As he passed Seventh Street , he again felt the urge, 'Turn Down that street.' This is crazy he thought, and drove on past the intersection. Again, he felt that he should turn down Seventh Street . At the next intersection, he turned back and headed down Seventh.

    Half jokingly, he said out loud, 'Okay, Allah, I will.' He drove several blocks, when suddenly, he felt like he should stop.
    He pulled over to the curb and looked around. He was in a semi-commercial area of town. It wasn't the best but it wasn't the worst of neighborhoods either. The businesses were closed and most of the houses looked dark like the people were already in bed. Again, he sensed something, 'Go and give the milk to the people in the house across the street.' The young man looked at the house. It was dark and it looked like the people were either gone or they were
    already asleep. He started to open the door and then sat back in the car seat. 'Allah, this is insane. Those people are asleep and if I wake them up, they are going to be mad and I will look stupid.' Again, he felt like he should go and give the milk.

    Finally, he opened the door, 'Okay Allah(SWT), if this is you, I will go to the door and I will give them the milk. If you want me to look like a crazy person, okay. I want to be obedient. I guess that will count for something, but if they don't answer right away, I am out of here.' He walked across the street and rang the bell. He could hear some noise inside. A man's voice yelled out, 'Who is it? What do you want?' Then the door opened before the young man could get away.

    The man was standing there in his jeans and T-shirt. He looked like he just got out of bed. He had a strange look on his face and he didn't seem too happy to have some stranger standing on his doorstep. 'What is it?' The young man thrust out the gallon of milk, 'Here, I brought this to you.' The man took the milk and rushed down a hallway.
    Then from down the hall came a woman carrying the milk toward the kitchen. The man was following her holding a baby. The baby was crying. The man had tears streaming down his face.

    The man began speaking and half crying, 'We were just praying. We had some big bills this month and we ran out of money. We didn't have any milk for our baby. I was just praying and asking Allah(SWT) to show me how to get some milk.' His wife in the kitchen yelled out, 'I ask him to send an Angel with some.

    Are you an Angel?'
    The young man reached into his wallet and pulled out all the money he had on him and put in the man's hand.

    He turned and walked back toward his car and the tears were streaming down his face.

    He knew that Allah (SWT) still answers prayers.


    Sunday, June 14, 2009

    Inspiring Story - A Bucket of Water

    An old man lived on a farm in the mountains of eastern Kentucky with his young grandson. Each morning Grandpa was up early sitting at the kitchen table reading his Quraan ..
    His grandson wanted to be just like him and tried to imitate him in every way he could. One day the grandson asked, "Papa, I try to read the Quraan just like you but I don't understand it, and what I do understand I forget as soon as I close the book. What good does reading the Quraan do?" The Grandfather quietly turned from putting coal in the stove and replied, "Take this coal basket down to the river and bring me back a basket of water." The boy did as he was told, but all the water leaked out before he got back to the house. The grandfather laughed and said, "You'll have to move a little faster next time," and sent him back to the river with the basket to try again. This time the boy ran faster, but again the basket was empty before he returned home. Out of breath, he told his grandfather that it was impossible to carry water in a basket, and he went to get a bucket instead.
    The old man said, "I don't want a bucket of water; I want a basket of water. You're just not trying hard enough," and he went out the door to watch the boy try again.

    At this point, the boy knew it was impossible, but he wanted to show his grandfather that even if he ran as fast as he could, the water would leak out before he got back to the house.
    The boy again dipped the basket into river and ran hard, but when he reached his grandfather the basket was again empty. Out of breath, he said, "See Papa, it's useless!""So you think it is useless?" The old man said, "Look at the basket. "The boy looked at the basket and for the first time realized that the basket was different. It had been transformed from a dirty old coal basket and was now clean, inside and out. "Son, that's what happens when you read the Quraan. You might not understand or remember everything, but when you read it, you will be changed, inside and out. That is the work of Allah in our lives."


    Wednesday, June 10, 2009

    A wrestler become Awlia

    Junaid Baghdadi earned his livelihood as a professional wrestler. As was the norm, the Leader of Baghdad announced one day, "Today, Junaid Baghdadi will demonstrate his skills as a wrestler, is there anyone to challenge him." An elderly man shakily stood up with his neck quivering and said, "I will enter the contest with him."

    Whoever was witness to this scene could not contain themselves, they burst out howling with laughter, clapping their hands. The King was bound by the law. He could not stop someone who of his own free will entered the bout. The elderly man was given the permission to enter the ring. He was about sixty-five years old. When Junaid Baghdadi entered the ring, he was dumbfounded as was the King and all the spectators of the Kingdom who were present. The single thought that occupied their minds was, "How will this old man be able to fight?"

    The old man addressed Junaid with these words, "Lend me your ears." He then whispered, "I know it is not possible for me to win this bout against you, but I am a Sayyid, a descendant of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him). My children are starving at home. Are you prepared to sacrifice your name, your honour and position for the love of Allah's Prophet and lose this bout to me? If you do this I will be able to collect the prize money and thereby have the means to feed my children and myself for an entire year. I will be able to settle all my debts and above all, the master of both the worlds will be pleased with you. Are you, Oh Junaid, not willing to sacrifice your honour for the sake of the children of Rasulullah (peace be upon him)?"

    Junaid Baghdadi thought to himself, "Today, I have an excellent opportunity."

    In a display of fervour Junaid Baghdadi executed a couple of maneuvers, demonstrating his finesse so that the King does not suspect any conspiracy. Junaid with a great display of antics did not use his strength and allowed himself to be dropped. The elderly man mounted his chest thus entitling him to the prize.

    That night, Junaid Baghdadi had a dream of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) who said, "Oh Junaid, you have sacrificed your honour, your nationally acclaimed fame, your name and position which was heralded throughout Baghdad in the expression of your love for my children who were starving. As of today, your name is recorded in the register of the Auliya (friends of Allah)."

    Thereafter, this great wrestler learnt to defeat his nafs (desires) and became one of the most eminent Auliya of his time!

    Source: From the book "Tajalliat-e-Jazb" by Shaikh Hakim Muhammad Akhtar.


    Tuesday, June 9, 2009

    Fajr in the Masjid

    A man woke up early in order to pray the Fajr prayer in the masjid. He got dressed, made his ablution and was on his way to the masjid.

    On his way to the masjid, the man fell and his clothes got dirty. He got up, brushed himself off, and headed home. At home, he changed his clothes, made his ablution, and was, again, on his way to the masjid.

    On his way to the masjid, he fell again and at the same spot! He, again, got up, brushed himself off and headed home. At home he, once again, changed his clothes, made his ablution and was on his way to the masjid.

    On his way to the masjid, he met a man holding a lamp. He asked the man of his identity and the man replied "I saw you fall twice on your way to the masjid, so I brought a lamp so I can light your way." The first man thanked him profusely and the two where on their way to the masjid.

    Once at the masjid, the first man asked the man with the lamp to come in and pray Fajr with him. The second man refused. The first man asked him a couple more times and, again, the answer was the same. The first man asked him why he did not wish to come in and pray.

    The man replied "I am Satan."

    The man was shocked at this reply. Satan went on to explain, "I saw you on your way to the masjid and it was I who made you fall. When you went home, cleaned yourself and went back on your way to the masjid, Allah forgave all of your sins. I made you fall a second time, and even that did not encourage you to stay home, but rather, you went back on your way to the masjid. Because of that, Allah forgave all the sins of the people of your household. I was afraid if i made you fall one more time, then Allah will forgive the sins of the people of your village, so i made sure that you reached the masjid safely."

    So do not let Satan benefit from his actions.

    Do not put off a good that you intended to do as you never know how much reward you might receive from the hardships you encounter while trying to achieve that good.


    Friday, June 5, 2009

    Please boycott NIKE as a minimum

    Dear All,
    Believe me we'll not die if we don't use NIKE products. But we'll certainly find no escape at the day of judgement that what action we took against NIKE..
    Please boycott NIKE as a minimum. (rear view in the picture )This is what the 'NIKE' company did ....
    'NIKE' company wrote the name of 'ALLAH' (Nauz Billah) on the shoes & from the back so no one will notice this ........

    IF we have dignity / nobility we need to forward this msg. Please DON'T STOP ...... and say no to wear Nike in future. whether he apologise for same ...its a different matter that how much we do against Allah's commendments. but we love Allah. nobody is ours when we truly need but only ALLAH. can't tolerate such type of disgusting and punishable activities.

    i love my allah and muhammad (pbuh)

    Thursday, June 4, 2009

    Miracles of quran:Number

    A Doctor discovered some verses in the Holy Qur'an. That mention one thing is equal to another, i.e. men are equal to women.

    Although this makes sense grammatically, but the astonishing fact is that the number of times the word man appears in Holy Qur'an is 24 and number of times the word woman appears is also 24, therefore not only is this phrase correct in the grammatical sense but also true mathematically, i.e. 24 = 24.

    Upon further analysis of various verses, he discovered that this is consistent throughout the whole Holy Qur'an Where it says one thing is like another. See below for astonishing result of the words mentioned number of times in Arabic Holy Qur'an

    Dunia (one name for life) 115 .

    Aakhirat (one name for the life after this world) 115

    Malaika ( Angel s) 88 . Shayteen (Satan) 88

    Life 145 ...... Death 145

    Benefit 50 . Corrupt 50

    People 50 .. Messengers 50

    Eblees (king of devils) 11 .. Seek refuge from Eblees 11

    Museebah (calamity) 75 . Thanks ! 75

    Spending (Sadaqah) 73 . Satisfaction 73

    People who are mislead 17 D Dead people 17

    Muslimeen 41 ...J Jihad 41

    Gold 8 .E Easy life 8

    Magic 60 .F Fitnah (dissuasion, misleading) ! 60

    Zakat (Taxes Muslims pay to the poor) 32 .

    Barakah (Increasing or blessings of wealth) 32

    Mind 49 .N Noor 49

    Tongue 25 .S Sermon 25

    Desite 8 .F Fear 8

    Speaking publicly 18 .P Publicising 18

    Hardship 114 ...... Patience 114

    Muhammed 4 .S Sharee'ah ( Muhammed's teachings) 4

    Man 24 . Woman 24

    And amazingly enough have a look how many times the following words appear:

    Salat 5 , Month 12 , Day 365 ,

    Sea 32 , Land 13

    Sea + land = 32 + 13 = 45

    Sea = 32/45*100q.=71.11111111%

    Land = 13/45*100 = 28.88888889%

    Sea + land 100.00%

    Modern science has only recently proven that the water covers 71.111% of the earth, while the land covers 28.889%.

    Is this a coincidence? Question is that Who taught Prophet Muhammed (PBUH) all this?

    Reply automatically comes in mind that ALMIGHTY ALLAH taught him.

    Wednesday, June 3, 2009

    What should be justified during selection of life partner

    "Woman was made from the RIB of Man,
    She was not created from his head to TOP him,
    Nor from his feet to be stepped Upon,
    She was made from his side to be close to HIM,
    From beneath his Arm to be protected by Him,

    Once there was a very handsome, pious, well educated young man, whose parents emphasised for him to get married. they had seen so many marriage proposals, and he had turned them all down. The parents thought it was becoming a little ridiculous or suspected that he may have someone else in mind.

    However every time the parents left the girls house, the young man would always say "she's not the one!"
    The young man only wanted a girl who was religious and practicing, however one evening his mother arranged for him, to meet a girl, who was religious, and practicing.
    On that evening, the young man, and girl, were left to talk, and ask each other questions. (As one would expect).
    The young man, being a gentleman that he was allowed, the lady to ask first.

    The young girl asked the young man so many questions, she asked about his life, his education, his friends, his family, his habits, his hobbies, his lifestyle, his enjoyment, his pastime, his experiences, his shoe size..

    The young man replied to all of her questions, without tiring, and politely, with a smile the young girl took up nearly all of the time, over an hour, and felt bad, and asked the young man do you have any questions?

    The young man said, it's ok. I only have 3 questions...

    The young girl thought, wow, only 3 questions okay, shoot.
    The young man's first question was, Who do you love the most in the world, someone who's love nothing would ever overcome?
    She said, this is an easy question; my mother, he smiled second question, he asked, you said that you read a lot of qur'an, could you tell me which surahs you know the meaning of?

    Hearing this she went red and embarrassed and said, I do not know the meaning of any yet, but I am hoping to soon insha'allah I've just been a bit busy.the third question the young man asked, was I have been approached for my hand in marriage, by girls that are a lot more prettier than you, why should I marry you?

    Hearing this the young girl was outraged, she stormed off to her parents with fury, and said I do not want to marry this man he is insulting my beauty, and intelligence. And the young man and his parents, were once again, left without an agreement of marriage.
    This time, the young mans parents were really angry, and said what did you do to anger that girl, the family were so nice, and pleasant, and they were religious like you wanted. What did you ask the girl?? Tell us!

    The young man said, firstly I asked her, who do you love the most? she said, her mother,
    The parents said so, what is wrong with that??
    The young man said, "no one, is Muslim, until he loves Allah, and his messenger (saw) more than anyone else in the world"
    If a woman loves Allah and the Prophet (pbuh) more than anyone, she will love me and respect me, and stay faithful to me, because of that love, and fear for Allah (swt). and we can share this love, because this love is greater than lust for beauty.

    The young man said, then I asked, you read a lot of qur'an, can you tell me the meaning of any surah?
    And she said no, because I haven't had time yet. so I thought of that hadith "ALL humans, are dead except for those who have knowledge" She has lived 20 years and not found ANY time, to seek knowledge, why would I marry a woman, who does not know her rights, and responsibilities, and what will she teach my children, except how to be negligent, because the woman IS the madrasa (school) and the best of teachers. And a woman who has no time for Allah, will not have time for her husband.

    The third question I asked her was, that a lot of girls, more prettier than her, had approached me for marriage, why should I choose you?
    That is why she stormed off, getting angry. The young man's parents said that is a horrible thing to say, why would you do such a thing, we are going back there to apologise. The young man said I said this on purpose, to test whether she could control her anger.
    The Prophet (saw) said "do not get angry, do not get angry, do not get angry" when asked how to become pious; because anger is from Satan.
    If a woman cannot control her anger with a stranger she has just met,do you think she will be able to control it with her husband??

    So, the moral of this story is, a marriage is based on:
    *knowledge, not looks,
    *practice, not preaching,
    *Forgiveness, not anger,
    *spiritual love, not lust.
    *and compromise
    One should look for a person who
    1) Has love for Allah (swt) and the messenger (saw)
    2) Has knowledge of the deen, and can act upon it.
    3) can control their anger
    4) and willing to compromise.
    And it goes both ways, so women seeking a man, should look for the same things.
    Insha'allah, may Allah make every marriage a success, and let us create Love for Allah and his messenger(saw) so that Allah can bless us, and create love in our lives.
    There is no better structure founded in Islam other than marriage. - The Prophet of Islam (SAW)



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